It's important to consider is your personal safety. Unfortunately
you often don't ever completely know who you're interacting with until you've
met someone in the "flesh". It's not really possible to fall in love
with someone you've only communicated with online. Take care - Internet Dating
Sites can be targeted by a few of scrupulous individuals, who are not who they
pretend to be. Don't get paranoid though - most people looking for friends online
are just like you, and basically trustworthy. Having said that, online dating
services can be safe and enjoyable as long as you follow take care and protect
your own safety. Don't ever be bullied into giving out any information which makes
you feel uncomfortable. You will find that honest dating service members will
appreciate you taking an interest in your safety. It adds to the general safety
of online dating services globally.
Basic Rules on Safety.
give out your personal details.
If someone asks to talk to you by phone,
don't give out your number. Get their number instead.
Protect yourself. Don't
trust anyone 100% - you don't really know them until you have met face to face.
Never arrange to meet someone alone that you've met online. Go with someone else
or in a group of people.
Make use of organised singles events in your area
that are organised by some dating services.
If you are meeting with someone,
you'll probably be nervous. Don't drink too much alcohol to calm your nerves.
Be wary of exaggerations, claims or information that seem too good to be
Never be persuaded to do anything you're not completely comfortable
Never send money or bank account details to someone you have met online
- no matter how much you think you know them.
If you've never actually met
them you cannot be sure they are actually who they say they are.
If in doubt,
run their name, or other details through a Google search to see if they could
be a known "scammer".
All the Dating
Sites we list work hard to ensure that they provide a safe environment for
clients like you.
You are often given further information on staying safe
once you've joined.
Choosing the right Dating Agency.
right type of members.
Looking for a site with the right type of members
is important because you will be using the service to meet new people. In fact
other people will be using the same service to meet you. Choose a site that covers
your locality, with a significantly high membership of the right sex and age range
to give you the best possible choice. You will set up a "profile" to
ensure that the people who decide to get in contact with you are actually ďyour
kind of people.Ē So if you can work out what kind of people the site is attracting
in the first place, that helps. Take a look at the site and see if the people
that are currently using it appeal to you.
will see lots of sites offering FREE membership. Remember, there is no such thing
as a good free dating service. If it's Free - it's probably not worth bothering
with. Dating sites are in business to make money. However, subscription costs
are normally extremely good value for money. In most cases you won't be paying
an annual fee - most people use dating services to meet someone, and after that
they will continue communicating by other means such as email or even by phone
if things are going well. But some people enjoy using dating services to flirt
or chat and not take their relationships further, and are willing to continue
paying a fee and consider that the cost is worth it. Remember, it's a good sign
if subscriptions cost more, as the people using the service will most likely be
genuine people with the genuine intention of forming new relationships. Many sites
donít require you to sign up for a whole year, so try it out for a month and then
if you donít like it you donít have to continue paying.
Most good dating sites offer a free trial period. This means they may not
allow you to access all the advance features, but it will allow you try it and
see if you like it. You should take advantage of free trials, but check out what
the cost is once the trial ends.
Check out what features you will be able to utilise
- email, chat rooms, voice, video, webcam and mobile phones. Don't be put off
if you donít own a webcam or microphone. You may feel it's a worthwhile tool to
buy later on.
Search Facilities enable you
to match-make, which can be very good. If you donít have a lot of time or you
donít have much luck in your own selections, then make sure the site you choose
supports some form of match-making.
dating sites organise off-line events so that members can get together. These
are always great fun and the right setting for meeting new people. Theyíre also
perfect for moving your online relationships to off-line, in safety. You may not
feel this is very useful, but think ahead - you might find this the ideal option
to fulfil your dating experience.
This is your
marketing tool, and is the most important thing to put some thought into and get
it right. It will be the key to finding the right mate. Your profile will be the
first impression you give to someone finding your details on the dating site.
Be careful not to lie about your looks, likes and achievements - but concentrate
on the positives, and skim over the negatives. Sell yourself - even get someone
else to write a profile for you - they will not be as self critical about you
as your may be about yourself.
any personal contact information when creating your profile except for your email
address, which will be required. Create a separate email account specifically
for your dating service. Use Email such as Codehot
Email for this.
Your picture is the first
aspect of your profile people will notice. Choose a good photo - don't make do
with a poor quality picture. Take a photo specifically for your profile - have
a laugh - it's not a passport photo. Try to be yourself and as natural as possible.
You'll look more approachable if you're relaxed. Take care with the photo-shoot
- if the light is too harsh it will show up those imperfections you'd rather hide.
Soft window light is good. Face slightly sideways on to the camera and then turn
your head in. It's worth filling a whole film full of photo's of you. You're more
likely to get one you like.
Your Opening Line.
sites let you to create your own opening line which is used to "lead in" to your
more detailed profile. This is a key element - because people must feel interested
enough to learn more about you after reading your opening line. The best way to
do this is to write something witty, or eye catching, with an air of mystique.
Be honest though, don't try to be something you're not in order to attract people.
Inject some humour into your answers if possible. Don't give too much away - leave
them wanting more.
Finding your match.
It's easy to find other
people you're interested in, but tread carefully. All may not be as it first seems.
You've done the initial work - written a profile, an opening line and added a
superb photo of yourself. Then all the interested parties come flooding in, hopefully.
This is not the time to give up, or not be afraid to, or bothered about replying.
You need to support the online community to which you have now become a part of.
There's nothing more frustrating than waiting for someone to reply. Even if you
don't like the sound of someone who's contacted you a simple reply outlining your
response is all that's required. Treat others as you'd like to be treated - with
dignity and respect, but don't lead people on if it's clear they are not for you.
Make sure you don't sit back and do nothing, because you'll get much more out
of the experience if you really get stuck into it.
by phone for the first time with someone you've been talking to online can be
a nerve racking experience. You will find that some people will be eager to call
you quite early on. Don't do this until you are feeling really comfortable with
the person online first. There's just no need to take it offline until you're
really ready. When talking on the phone for the first time you should still remain
cautious. Listen hard to what the other person is saying - does what you're hearing
add up to what you've previously been told online? Don't let anyone force you
into giving out too many details. If they really care about you then they will
understand. If you're not too good at conversation and want to avoid uncomfortable
silences, why not write a small plan of some things that you'd like to talk about.
By then end of your first phone call you should be feeling a little more relaxed.
From then on - it's up to you - but make it an experience to enjoy. I'm sure you